Should you be comfortable?
Unpopular opinion coming at you 😬
Good morning, sunshiners! How’s your week going?
As many of you know, I’ve gotten some serious mileage, creatively speaking, around my recent experience at a week-long event with Dr. Joe Dispenza (if this is news to you, read more here!)
I went into the event not so much because I was “into”Joe Dispenza’s work. I’d seen and heard him being interviewed and giving talks, but hadn’t read his books or done his meditations.
Actually I just wanted to see what his stuff was all about. And what better way than by jumping right in? 😂😬🙏
Was this going to be similar to and congruent with Donny Epstein’s work? Or different in some new and interesting way? I was ready to find out
Early on in this immersion process, I began hearing things that made my ears perk up and my hand start jotting down notes in my notebook.
“No one changes unless they are challenged.”
Immediately, I picked up on a major theme.
Most people want their health or their lives to change or improve in some way. That can’t happen unless WE ourselves change 💥
But it won’t happen by thinking about it or reading about it. We need challenge to change and grow. And the challenges are not meant to be comfortable or convenient.
Certainly the structure of the event, with a daily schedule of 6AM-8PM (except for the day we started at 4AM 😳), with minimal breaks, was meant to challenge us, trigger us, and force us to go up against the parts of ourselves that are potentially keeping us stuck.
As familiar as I am with the world of healing, health, and transformation, I can tell you that these are definitely not new ideas, nor are they ideas held by adherents of Dr. Joe alone.
The opposite of what Dr. Joe is saying, these days, seems to have become the more popular opinion.
I see a lot of content on social media emphasizing the need we have for “safety” in our nervous systems and bodies.
If we are in fight or flight all the time, so the the reasoning goes, there hasn’t been enough of an experience of safety, physiologically, to free up the energy and focus for growth 😰
I can see why these ideas about safety and the need for rest and self care have gained so much traction.
But I think it’s a big mistake to stop there.
There comes a time for rest and safety. There also comes a time for showing up for a larger, brighter version of yourself ☀️💥💗✨
And continuing to argue for your need for rest and safety, is, in essence, you arguing for your own limitations (and therefore anchoring them in!)
What I’m telling you is that even though it’s not always popular these days, I agree with Dr. Joe on this. You’re not always supposed to be comfortable. Especially if something needs to change.
“Sooner or later, you will need to go up against you.”
There are going to be times when you and your nervous system need rest and safety.
But I think it’s an art and a practice to be able to know when you actually need safety versus when you need someone to call you out, or when you need to to call yourself out, on your own bull****
So many of us have been traumatized by our own internal task-master, our own internal drill-sergeant 📢
This cruel and unrelenting inner voice was formed in stress, in un-safety, and merely reinforces that sense of stress and un-safety. Now you’re triggered by any requests for more productivity or to go out of your comfort zone.
Instead, what we need to find and identify is the parts of us that are fed up with being stuck, with hearing ourselves with the same complaints, stories, and justifications (including reasonable sounding ones about our nervous systems!), and arguments in favor of our limitations, and to become so related to ourselves in that state of stuckness and emotional backlog that energy is freed up to move on and BE a whole new version of ourselves 💥☀️💗🙏🌍🌀
It’s an art and a practice, both knowing ourselves well enough to know if the inner voice that’s coming through is the wounded, defensive one, or the one who needs to be honored and nurtured.
We don’t always have that objectivity. This is why we need teachers and practitioners around us who can see us when we can’t.
My 12 Stages in 12 Weeks small group have become EXPERTS in all of this.
Week by week, for the last 12 weeks, we have immersed ourselves in each of Donny Epstein’s 12 Stages. These stages give us the ability to know ourselves in these moments of discomfort and uncertainty, in pain, in moving forward, in opening up, and in contributing to a larger community.
If you’ve seen sunshines writing in these workbooks (⬆️⬆️⬆️) after their adjustments lately,
this is what they have been working on!
It’s been an amazing experience, writing the workbooks, creating the content, and working with the super-sunshines in the 12 Stages group. I’ve learned so much!
The next opportunity for going deeper with all of this is going to be the Experience the 12 Stages workshop on Saturday, May 30th.
Last I checked, there were only 2 spots left.
But nothing would make me happier than to have so many of you want to practice the 12 Stages that I would need to put another workshop on the calendar 🥰📅
At Experience the 12 Stages we learn about, and experience through focused breath work, these 12 ways of experiencing ourselves as we change and gain access to more energy through the healing process.
This workshop helps you gain perspective on the big picture with Network Spinal care, puts you in a powerful small-group healing, and gives you tools to use on your own that will then, in turn, generate even more beneficial experiences for you on the table at your appointments at New Day 💥🌀💥💗
The cost of this 90 minute small group, in person experience is workshop is $55. Register now and/or join the wait-list for another event.
Thank you for your time and attention, sunshines 🤩 I look forward to seeing you for your care today, next week, and beyond ✨
