We need a good working relationship
In order to create together 👯♀️
Good evening! I hope you are enjoying this glorious weather 🌅
With the upcoming Transform edition of the 12 Stages Workshop (this has been sold out, but 1 SPOT just opened up!), and the upcoming Bright Souls Gathering (see below), I’ve been considering the “trajectory” for sunshines here in my care.
It’s not linear, as we know.
It’s not necessarily predictable.
But there are some common threads I have noticed after all these years, especially when it comes to new clients starting with me.
“Phase 1” of being new in my care can be a lot of things. It can be hopeful. It can also be cautious and trepidatious.
You’re feeling it out. You’re submitting to this new structure in your life– suddenly taking time out to come here to New Day. You’re getting into the routine.
What is it that has some sunshines go from hopeful, cautious, “is this working?”, “I think I felt something!,” “I’m not sure I’m feeling anything yet,”. . . to “YES, this IS working!”?
In the 12 Stages, which is Donny Epstein’s big picture for the work we do, the first 3 Stages of healing happen in the realm of experiencing we call “Discover.”
In Discover, we want someone or something to fix us.
In Discover, life is very much experienced as happening TO us.
In Discover, without enough energy moving through our central nervous systems for a baseline of safety and stability, we are Energy Poor.
In Discover, we are very much passively laying on the table at New Day waiting and hoping for Network Spinal to fix us.
As though it were a magic spell, very much separate from us, we hope it will eventually come in and take over our bodies, shoving the pain and problems out of the way 😂
If you are reading this now and thinking, “Oh no, this is me” please keep reading!
I’m not trying to single you out. We ALL relate to ourselves and care this way sometimes.
We all have our Energy Poor days. But when you are new in my care, chances are this is your baseline, and has been for quite a while.
In preparing for these upcoming workshops– the Transform 12 Stages Experience and the Bright Souls gathering– I’ve been considering what it is that tips the scales, freeing up energy for a Transform experience.
Here it is. We need to have a good working relationship ✨👯♀️💥
Remember how at your first visit, after the intake and the exams when I went to adjust you, and I started out with this pre-amble (which probably felt very long!) about how to use your focus?
“Focus on your legs. Focus on the weight or your legs on the table, Feel and focus on the difference between your right let and your left leg. . . Focus on feeling your breath. . . Now focus on your spine. . . ” etc., etc.
There are several important reasons why I start out this way.
The most important reason I can think of right now is that this is how we are kicking off our “working relationship.” With me setting the expectation that we are working together, and you are using your focus actively 💥
There was also the “pebble dropping into the lake with every adjustment.”
Is it really a pebble? No, of course not. It’s an analogy. I use it as a way to get you related to what’s happening, in a spirit of participation, openness, and (co)creativity 🌀
The reality is that we are always co-creating our experience in life. It is only in our Energy Poor states that life doesn’t feel this way.
I want you to feel empowered knowing that it’s not me putting a magic spell on you, but instead us focusing together in a way that frees up energy for us to have a different experience.
Please note that a “good working relationship” doesn’t mean you “liking me.”
Yes, hopefully you do? At least mostly? As long as you’re spending your precious time and money coming here it would probably be best 😂
It might not have come naturally at first, the focusing. But we are planting the seeds for what will become more and more relevant in your experience of your care, your body, and your life outside of New Day 🌱
The jump in energy and functionality from Discover (passive, outside-in, at the effect) to Transform (active, co-creating, at choice) is the breakthrough.
If you’re very new here, you probably think the breakthrough is when your pain goes away 🙏
Be where you are, and be aware of where you are.
And work with me, tending to our working relationship on the table, through reading these messages, at the Intro to Care, your reassessment, and at future workshops and events meant to engage your creativity and focus.
Thank you for staying connected.
I look forward to seeing you for your care with me this week, Intro to Care on Saturday, The 12 Stages Experience Transform Edition, and the Bright Souls Gathering 💖
